You’re a Copper Kind of Friend


Did you know texting was technically invented in 1920?

Well, neither did I until I did a quick Wikipedia search (love you, Wiki!). It was called a telex (which sounds way cooler than text message) and it was sent by RCA Communications (today’s Verizon) in New York to London. The first SMS text message – the more standard text messages we are familiar with today – was sent in December 1992 in the UK between a young engineer to his friend from his computer to a phone. (Wikipedia)

Don’t worry, I’m done with the boring tech history.

Text messaging: today’s improvement from letter-writing and carrier-pigeons.

Text messaging is probably the lowest-of-the-low of communication, commitment and investment-wise. You can send a text to someone in three seconds or less – no matter where they are in the WHOLE WIDE WORLD. (Give or take a few countries and places like the basement in the UCC at Western. Can I get an amen?!)

As a (fairly) recent graduate, I have experienced the struggle that is keeping friendships alive after the university experience is done and everyone moves in their own direction.

You really can tell who is your friend and who doesn’t deserve to be.

I find myself constantly sending texts to people who I consider my friends just to see how they are doing and to catch up. I don’t mind if the only catch-up we do is over a few text messages — I am a low-commitment girl myself with minimal time. We don’t have to commit to a three-hour dinner date in some obscure place north of the city or even a phone conversation. AIN’T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT. And don’t I know it!

However, I have found myself always being the one to reach out to people and say hello. And if I don’t do it for a while, I actually feel bad about it and wonder if I am being a bad friend.

Reality check, Paige: you’re not the sub-par friend. 

Let’s just say I have had a mind-blowing revelation that people suck. I mean, I have people reaching out to me who I have known for a much shorter period of time. Now, how does that work?! Does that make sense?!

I get that people grow and things change, but friendships? I thought we were good friends.

(I’m not really thinking of anyone in particular, honestly.)

Remember this poem?

Make new friends, but keep the old;
Those are silver, these are gold.
New-made friendships, like new wine,
Age will mellow and refine.
Friendships that have stood the test-
Time and change-are surely best;
Brow may wrinkle, hair grow gray;
Friendship never knows decay.
For ‘mid old friends, tried and true,
Once more we our youth renew.
But old friends, alas! may die;
New friends must their place supply.
Cherish friendship in your breast-
New is good, but old is best;
Make new friends, but keep the old;
Those are silver, these are gold.

Now there is a very large distinction between my gold friends and my once-silver-now-copper friends.

Come on, son. A text takes three seconds to send and you can be doing thirty thousand things whilst sending this said text. If I can do it — self-proclaimed Busy Bee — you can do it, trust me.

Unless you’re broke as hell/perpetually losing your phone/living in the remote hills of the Andes/went natural to live naked in the woods somewhere….be a friend and say what’s up.

Now, this isn’t a threat, but ….if you stop reaching out to me — I’m pretty blonde and sometimes forgetful — I might accidentally delete you from my phone or you know, forget who you are.

And to those individuals who do communicate with me on a regular basis – whether it be via email, Google Chat, text, Facebook, Instagram, or in person!!! — you’re awesome and don’t you ever forget that. You amazing friend, you.

Has anyone ever experienced any fading friendships because of a lack of effort? Or am I just cuckoo bananas?

Text me!




6 Comments Add yours

  1. AMEN! as we have discussed this before!!!!!!!!! I hate feeling like the only one who puts effort in, and since university I have for sure lost/seem to be losing at least 3-4 friends due to this issue. Not cool. But you do really realize who is true blue and who’s just a fair weather friend.

    1. Paige Andrea says:

      Yup! We have talked about this! You just let them go unfortunately. Oh well! Their loss 🙂

  2. I’ve definitely felt this way before but you don’t want to say anything because you don’t want things to be awkward.
    Great post

  3. I definitely agree! Once I stop trying it equals lonely and bored… how nice.

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